patriotik

i was watching the tv last nite when i stick at news@bernama.a reporter came to pedestrians and asking the question regarding our national flag.and he ask the meaning beneath the surface for the flag.there are pedestrian whom answered it really well. but many just 'urmm' 'aahh' .

so i wonder, for those people who cant answered it well enough does it shows that they are not patriotic!!??

hell no!!!
me myself mite as well wont be able to answer it
so, am i not patriotic enough!?

does by mengibarkan jalur bendera at ur car consider u r patriotic
and who didnt is not!?

ade tak dorg terpikir, by putting the actual size flag at ur car can actually cause road accident!?
(the small is ok la)

my point is, me mungkin x tau maksud sbnr disebalik jalur gemilang( selain putih=bersih, merah=berani, kuning=kedaulatan beraja, etc etc)
me mungkin x kibarkan jalur bendera kat my car
me mungkin x shout out loud 'merdeka' kat dataran merdeka on 31st august

but me, didnt involve in any crime
me working my ass for the country
me earn my own hard money to make my own living
me pay my taxes
etc etc

so,dont u ever tell me that am not patriotic enough

puzzled

am not very sure whether the life
or the ceremony itself that i want

btw, below article is me indeed

Leave Your Emotional Baggage Behind
By Emily Battaglia, LifeScript Staff Writer

Can you name one woman who doesn’t bring a week’s worth of outfits and half the contents of her medicine cabinet for a weekend getaway? Overpacking can be cumbersome. That holds true for emotional baggage, too. Lugging around angst from past relationships can sabotage your chances for happiness in the present. Find out how to unpack it, heartache by heartache.

If you drag emotional baggage from one relationship to the next, you put a prospective mate at a disadvantage before you even begin.

When you present yourself as damaged goods, you might as well have a billboard on your head that screams “Please be the one to fix me!” And as much as guys love to repair things, they prefer cars and gadgets to women. No sane and stable man wants to play Mr. Fix-it when it comes to the dating game. He wants a partner capable of fixing herself, one who isn’t going to test his devotion by seeing how many storms he can weather.

Every relationship should start with a clean slate. But sometimes our insecurities and scars from breakups past make us punish a new love for crimes he didn’t commit.

What’s Stuffed Inside Your ‘Suitcase’?
Here are some common signs of emotional baggage:

- You don’t open up: Women with unhealed wounds from broken romances often feel vulnerable, making them too scared to open up even when a new guy provides a supportive and loving environment. The result: you shut off all possibilities of a healthy relationship because of preconceived, and probably untrue, notions.

- Your actions speak louder than your words: You tell your new guy how much you admire or love him, but then do everything in your power to disprove that with condescending or hurtful behavior. It’s your defense mechanism; you hurt him before you get hurt.

- You test your new guy: To find out where you stand in a relationship, you test him every chance you get. Maybe you try to “catch” him doing something wrong by checking recent calls he’s made on his cell phone. Or you threaten to break up with him every other day. Testing your new guy, especially if he’s good to you, will push him away faster than you can blink an eye.

- You carry around stereotypes and hang-ups: If all your boyfriends have cheated on you, you might assume that all men cheat. If your ex-husband controlled you, you might wrongly conclude that all men are control freaks. Or you might develop any of the following hang-ups: feeling that you aren’t worthy of being loved, aren’t attractive enough, have nothing to offer, will never fully satisfy a man, will never find someone you’ll like or will inevitably get dumped again.

- You don’t take responsibility for your mistakes: You blame your previous partners for the demise of your relationships and for every bad thing that’s happened to you. Refusing to shoulder any responsibility or blame cultivates a victim mentality, which is the ultimate emotional baggage.

5 Ways to Unload Your Emotional Baggage
If any of the behaviors above sound familiar, it’s time to unpack the baggage for good. Resolve never to treat others badly just because you were hurt. Learn from broken relationships, but don’t let them rule your current love life.

1. Give him a break. Whenever you meet a new potential partner, assign him a 100% scorecard. Only when he messes up are you allowed to deduct points.

2. Don’t burden your new guy with sob stories. Resist the urge to tell him how your ex cheated and destroyed your trust in men. He doesn’t want to hear your laundry list of problems – especially on your first date. Never bring blame for past partners’ wrongs into your new romance.

3. Analyze every failed relationship you’ve had. But don’t focus exclusively on what he did wrong. Scrutinize your role, too. Use your conclusions to decide what you do and don’t need from a new partner, and choose your next man accordingly.

4. Face your faults. Taking responsibility for your mistakes will help you stop wasting energy on the blame game (he lied, all men lie) and help you conquer the victim mentality so common among emotional baggage carriers.

5. Realize that emotional baggage is a huge turn-off. And it’s not healthy for you either. Start looking at past relationships as life experiences that can help you choose better men and improve yourself. Stop letting old wounds poison healthy relationships.

Are You Over Your Ex?
It’s been months since you and your ex parted ways, and you’ve been navigating the road to recovery ever since. Has it been surprisingly smooth or unbearably bumpy? Find out if you’re really ready to move on to new adventures in love and life or if you’re still hung up on your ex.

WHEN YOU THOUGHT I WASN’T LOOKING

By Mary Rita Schilke Korzan

When you thought I wasn’t looking, you displayed my first report, and I wanted to do another.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, you fed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, you gave me a sticker, and I knew that little things were special things.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, you put your arm around me, and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt--but that it’s all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, you smiled, and it made me want to look that pretty too.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, you cared, and I wanted to be everything I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking--I looked...and wanted to say thanks for all those things you did when you thought I wasn’t looking.

your heart is no good until it has been broken at least ten times...love and pain make us human

what right do i have to be right

a BIIIIGGG question mark there

Hasad dengki: Penyakit hati yang menghapuskan segala kebaikan.

what's new
just the same old grumpy whiner woman

a fren got married on saturday and the reception was on sunday
its a nice event
except that i am not hapi
not like im not hepi
just didnt have much adrenaline
to be joy
apape la

i did felt a bit 'sebak' for her
we have been friend for years afterall (since year 2001)
it was so and so

and i know i was jealous actually
despite the treatment that i despise la

overall she IS a nice person
with a goody-goody face
it was my fault actually that i did not intend to open up to her
on things that might/made me feels 'unsettled'

its not her fault
seriously

she has a great life
so whom she can blame
if i or someother people whom not really comfortable with her did not happy
what right we have to blame her

she got her portion and i got mine
so as everybody else

so x payah la nak dengki2
its a new chapter for her now
and deep down from me
good luck!!

best wishes from me

SPI

as usual on friday morning my office had 'Sesi Peningkatan Ilmu'
and today was En Nurisham turn giving the lecture
during the Q&A session, i found out i like my TPB(K)CA- En Jamil
he sound like a very well-educated person
he had years~~~ of experience, no doubt in that
but it seems like every single words that slipping from his mouth is very....
how can i describe it, useful maybe
no rubbish at all

suke~~~
when i talked wif that kind of people
they intrigue me
make me craving more knowledge
(even it may change in split second hehe)

best...
at least otak ku berfungsi dan berpikir ini hari

perfect ...durgh...

yeay.....
saya mmg suke perasan bagus
there is no fine men can possibly desrve me
im too good to anyone
waahhh...in luv dgn diri sendiri
impress dgn diri sendiri

always aiming at mr impossible
mr depan mata tak hingin sbb die x cukup bagus
he didnt deserve me
there is no way he can manage me

bwuahahahaha
hana bengong

its been a while
smlm jumpe die
rase la awkward
xtau nak treat die mcm mane

bile blk umah
rase menyesal pulak
when my times come
mesti aku sedey kalo kwn aku buat mcm tu

sigh...da lembut hati kah aku!?

car accidentsssssssss

4 accidents in a day!!!

1.on the way blk cpk dari jpm.mase kat parking lot,kitorg(luth n me) keluar dr parking dengan melanggar bumper yg aaaamaaaatttt tinggi.boleh dua2 x nampak membutakan mata.kejang segala urat.

2.mase nak balik kat parking cpk, hana sagat dinding dengan jayanyer....iyer, passanger door belah kiri calar dengan teruknyer.tgh consider nk cat rahman nih tau!!

3.malam dlm lepas isyak dpt phone kol abah langgar org naik motor.itu motorist patah kaki.abah xde pape.lampe depan keta pecah.

4.tak lame lepas tu iza text mintak no perodua smart.aku siap tanyer apekah bendenyer tuh.rupe2nyer emergency no kalo2 nak tow kreta.service by perodua.die xcident kat highway, siap bumper jatuh lagi.

aiyo...sakit dada wo

stalker

huh!!!
jangan...
pelik tau tak. i used to be a stalker
tp bl ade org stalking aku, agak ngeri pulak
jangan...
saya tiada apa yang menariknyer

believe me

isolated

hari ni rase a bit isolated
dua tiga menjak nih memang ade saje rase gitu
rase mcm xde sape for me turn my head into
skrg ni mmg rase struggle skit
esp. since fiza da kawen nih
x bley la slalu sgt kacau die bergayut kat tepon

those who really know me tau yg aku ni bukan la jenis yg meluahkan rase sgt
cume dl mase fiza nih bujang slalu borak
random facts/things
so hilang la rase serabut2 tuh

betol la tuh article hana bace dl
'gurls tend to treat their bestfren as their boyfren'
dl mase die belom kawen, slalu jer kol tanyer komen affair2 aku
talked about hope, dreams etc
mase ari die kawen tuh, mmg la hana rase emo semcm
tau yg d relationship wudnt be the same anymore

dah tu, bile tgh2 down gini teringat2 kat die
rase nak borak2 bende merapu supaya hn x ingt ape yg hn risaukan
betol la kata org 'we don't appreciate what we have until we lose it'

i didnt lost the frenship
it just move to next phase...

i hate growing up;being an adult

lonely

Do you know what lonely is?
Lonely is me not being here now.
Lonely is you listening to those words alone because I’m not here to hear them.

‘I’m lonely. I’m so lonely I could die.No matter how I cry or beg, the one bastard who should hear those words isn’t here,
so I have to listen to myself saying them.’

That’s lonely.

Wan Azizah undur - Beri laluan Anwar bertanding kerusi Parlimen Permatang Pauh

i dont think he could win
he should wait and be patience
malaysian getting tired ok
one at a time la
x sabar2

KUALA LUMPUR 31 Julai — Presiden Parti Keadilan Rakyat, Datuk Seri Dr. Wan Azizah Wan Ismail meletak jawatan sebagai Anggota Parlimen Permatang Pauh berkuatkuasa serta-merta bagi memberi laluan kepada suaminya, Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim untuk bertanding pada pilihan raya kecil nanti.

Wan Azizah, 55, berkata, beliau telah menyerahkan surat peletakan jawatannya itu hari ini kepada Speaker Dewan Rakyat, Tan Sri Pandikar Amin Mulia.

Bercakap kepada pemberita di ibu pejabat PKR di sini yang turut dihadiri Anwar dan anak mereka, Nurul Izzah yang juga Anggota Parlimen Lembah Pantai, Wan Azizah berkata, perkara itu telah dibincangkan dengan kepimpinan PKR dan rakan-rakan dalam Pakatan Rakyat.

Wan Azizah, yang juga Ketua Pembangkang di Parlimen, adalah wakil rakyat Permatang Pauh sejak 1999. Sebelum itu, kerusi tersebut diwakili oleh Anwar.

Wan Azizah berkata, beliau akan mengekalkan jawatan Presiden PKR manakala penggantinya sebagai Ketua Pembangkang akan ditentukan Pakatan Rakyat.

Anwar, 60, pula berkata, beliau terharu dan terhutang budi kepada isterinya yang telah sanggup melepaskan kerusi itu walaupun ia bukan satu perkara yang senang untuk dilakukan.

Beliau berkata, keputusannya untuk bertanding di Permatang Pauh adalah kerana ianya merupakan kerusi yang selamat baginya walaupun beliau ditawarkan beberapa kerusi Parlimen yang lain, termasuk kerusi Bandar Tun Razak yang disandang oleh Menteri Besar Selangor, Tan Sri Khalid Ibrahim dan Gombak yang diwakili Naib Presiden PKR, Mohamed Azmin Ali.

Selaras dengan peruntukan Perlembagaan Persekutuan dan Akta Pilihan Raya 1958, kerusi Parlimen itu perlu diisi dalam tempoh 60 hari mulai dari tarikh ia dikosongkan.

Anwar mewakili kerusi Parlimen Permatang Pauh sebagai wakil Barisan Nasional dari tahun 1982 sehingga beliau dipecat daripada UMNO pada September 1998, dan menjadi anggota Parlimen bebas sehingga dihukum penjara enam tahun kerana tuduhan rasuah.

Disebabkan hukuman penjara yang dikenakan terhadapnya, Anwar yang dibebaskan pada September 2004, tidak layak bertanding pada pilihan raya umum 8 Mac lepas.

Menyentuh mengenai pengumumannya baru-baru ini untuk bertanding kerusi Parlimen Kulim Bandar Baru, Anwar berkata, proses petisyen pilihan raya kerusi itu akan memakan masa untuk diselesaikan.

“Setelah berunding dengan keluarga, (Anggota Parlimen Cheras dari DAP, Tan) Kok Wai, (Anggota Parlimen Ipoh Timur, Lim) Kit Siang dan (Ketua Menteri Pulau Pinang, Lim) Guan Eng serta (Presiden Pas, Datuk Seri) Hadi Awang dan rakan-rakan di Permatang Pauh, mereka bersetuju untuk saya tawarkan diri,” katanya

Di KOTA KINABALU, Pandikar Amin memberitahu bahawa beliau akan memaklumkan perkara itu kepada Suruhanjaya Pilihan Raya mengenai kekosongan kerusi itu bagi membolehkan pilihan raya kecil diadakan dalam tempoh 60 hari.

Mengenai pengganti Wan Azizah sebagai Ketua Pembangkang, beliau berkata, itu terpulang kepada Pakatan Rakyat untuk menentukan.

“Pakatan Rakyat boleh memilih untuk melantik Ketua Pembangkang dalam masa terdekat, iaitu pada persidangan Dewan Rakyat yang akan bermula pada 18 Ogos ini, atau menunggu sehingga pilihan raya kecil Permatang Pauh selesai,” katanya.

– Bernama